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How To Do Hard Sh!t

Before We Begin…

I know what you’re thinking…that maybe you and I have different definitions of what it means to do hard shit, what with me being an Olympian and all. That doesn’t matter. Hard and difficult are relative. If you think it’s hard it’s hard and it doesn’t matter if anybody else agrees with you. The reality is this: hard may mean different things to each of us but the way in which we approach hardships and difficulties is the same. That’s what this series is about. I don’t know how much you know about me but the short version is this time after time I’m faced with something terrible: assault, bankruptcy, divorce, injuries intermingled with really amazing things: world championship titles, Olympic titles, a world record, good friends, etc. But each time I was faced with something terrible I believed in the moment that that was the end. The end of my hopes and dreams, my goals, the future I had envisaged. The end of me. Of course it sounds melodramatic in hindsight but in the moment, when you’re staring at a seemingly impossible situation in the face that’s exactly how it feels. And that’s okay. It’s what you do next that makes all the difference.

The struggle you’re in today is developing the strength you need for tomorrow. Don’t give up.
— Robert Tew

Before moving on to the next module download today’s worksheet on finding clarity. Being clear on the state of things is a critical step in the process of facing and tackling difficult things.

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Best Laid Plans: Dealing with busted plans and goals.


Best Laid Plans…

 So here we are. Shit has hit the fan, or it’s about to. And it feels so bad. I remember when I went to the Olympic Trials in 2008, I made the final of the long jump but failed to make the team, AGAIN. It took me two weeks to move past that experience. You want to know why? Because my dream died. And when things die we grieve. I understood completely the importance of grieving in other areas, like when a loved one dies, or a pet, or a relationship. But it didn’t occur to me how important it was to grieve the death of a goal or a plan. Because if we don’t we aren’t able to take the next steps required of us.

Progress is impossible without change; and those that cannot change their minds cannot change anything.
— George Bernard Shaw

Before moving on to the next module download today’s worksheet on processing loss. We have to find the meaning in the experience, and learn from mistakes so we can take new knowledge forward.

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Change Your Mind: Moving from A Fixed to a Growth Mindset

Change Your Mind…

Growth is required. The reason that whatever it is we’re about to face or are currently going through is difficult is because we don’t yet have the things we need to level up. The real question, once we reach this stage, is if we believe we have the ability to learn or acquire what’s needed to move forward.


More Resources:

Check out Mindset by Carol Dweck Ph.D.

We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.
— Albert Einstein

Before moving on to the next module download this worksheet and work through the gap between what you know now, and what you’ll need to learn to move forward.

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Worst Case Scenarios: Sure we want to be hopeful and optimistic but sometimes thinking through the worst can help you avoid it.

Worst Case Scenarios…

Sometimes the challenge ahead of us is so difficult or so scary that the very idea of taking steps toward facing it is debilitating. It’s been my experience that the fear of what could happen in the event of failure often keeps me from trying. Watch the video for my radical solution to this very human problem.

If you train worst case scenarios consistently, they will no longer be worst case scenarios.
— Rener Gracie



Before moving on to the next module download this worksheet and work through the worst case scenario funnel.

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Getting over that last little bit of apprehension and fear to move ahead in the pursuit of our difficult goals, or in the face of challenges

Go Boldly Forward

You ready to go? By now we should have worked and talked our way through enough mental barriers that we feel ready to forge ahead in our next “thing.” However, there’s always that little voice that asks, “what if I do all this and it STILL doesn’t work out?” We dive into why that question never needs to be answered.

Life is magical when we are bold and have the courage to move forward into the unknown, rather than backwards into security.
— Unknown



Use the worksheets for today’s module to prepare yourself to move boldly forward to your next thing!

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All that’s left for you to do now is put one foot in front of the other and move forward.

Your Next Move

I hope you believe you’re ready, because you are. Having worked through the process of dealing with difficult situations and doing hard shit with a surgeon’s precision, there is nothing you aren’t ready for. AND we now know that if we do come across an obstacle or issue that requires skills we don’t have our new growth mindset says we can LEARN whatever it is that’s required for us to move through that as well! So let’s go!

Let me know how you enjoyed (or didn’t enjoy) this talk series and how your quest for tackling and doing difficult things and hard shit is coming along for you!


You can never see the full path the important thing is to do the next right thing.
— Michael Hyatt

Before saying goodbye to this talk series download the summary, print it out and put it somewhere you’ll see it often as a reminder of the steps you take to keep handling the hard stuff.

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Go Be Great! Draw courage and confidence from the knowledge that you have prepared yourself for this! Let’s go!!!